---Choose your partner. Like you choose a friend, you can't choose someone who's dishonest or someone who's beliefs will conflict with yours and cause troubles. Don't confuse lust or infatuation for love.
---Respect each other. Respect each other. Respect each other.! How can I stress that more?
---It's not a guessing game and both of you are NOT mind readers. Tell each other your needs instead of hiding them then being angry when you are not satisfied. Know your needs and tell your partner about them clearly.
---Talk....Communicate....Bond...Connect! Everyday.
Even when you are away from each other, you have to check in, be updated. Don't wait them to call. It doesn't have to be a long talk always, you can't connect together if you don't know what going on in each others lives.
---Be honest, don't lie, don't cheat. Be clear and honest because hiding things makes everything just worse. ok?
--- Discuss important issues (money, children, etc) early. Know what he/she thinks about relationships. You need someone who thinks that honesty, openness and commitment are the base of a realationship. You don't want someone who's dishonest or just want to wander and play/bitch around while they are with you!
---Never assume. Don't assume your partner's intentions. If you don't like/understand something they did, ask and talk about it. Get the right idea.
---Be good to yourself and to each other. Think about each other and consider each other's feelings. Pay attention to your partner needs.
Before making a new decision, think (Will this make him/her happy?).
---For guys : you have to be good listeners . Listen truly and pay attention.
For women: Generally, nagging him isn't a good thing.
--- To men : Don't you ever dare to forget her birthday and anniversaries.
To women: Never make him jealous.
--- Stop doing things they hate or things that annoy your partner. How do you expect the relationship to last, then? For guys and girls (specially girls) just stop it! Stop being stubborn, it's not a war [I'm assuming that you husband isn't a Nazi]. Don't let your ego destroy the relationship.
Allow some space for compliance and devotion.
---Do/make things they love. Remember what they love and keep it in mind as it might be a sweet gift someday. Remember which coat or which necklace she liked when you were shopping. Remember things he/she loves and do it, this means you would do anything for them, your partner will appreciate it.
---Be best friends, get intimate, talk to each other and listen to each other. This requires honesty, closeness, self-disclosure and working on it, it doesn't happen by itself! Get close and don't hide your feelings, never think your partner will belittle you or get angry because you are talking about your feelings/thoughts. Never hide or pretend.
It's really, really important.
---Don't forget to work hard to maintain intimacy and closeness. A good relationship is a life-long continuous process that needs continuous work and attention. That's extremely important.
---Say "I love you" frequently and when you mean it.
---Compliment each other, tell each other "I love you" this help your partner to feel they are not taken for granted.
Well, you have to trust that you will stay together forever but it doesn't mean you stop showing love.
For women: Men, too need some love!... and care! :) Yes, even men need to be told that you love them.
---Apologize :For couples and married people, everybody: Apologize when you are wrong. Make up after you fight. You can say I'm sorry in a quit way, in a funny way, in a sarcastic way, just apologize when you make a mistake, please.
---Every relationship has its ups and downs. Love is a feeling that fluctuates up and down depending on how you treat each other and solve your problems. Discover new ways of connection and interaction, work together through these hard times then your relationship will become stronger than ever. That's important.
---Bring back the old days of flirting and fun. Do something nice or have fun together. Even for busy and married couples, go to a movie, a date. Even if you can't, play a game at home, watch something, joke around or have a long warm and intmate talk.
Enrich your relationship and spice it by travelling to new places and finding new interests and hobbies you both like.
---Consider them always. Think for two persons. Ask them before making a new decision because everything you both do will affect both of you.You are a team! Sometimes we have choose based on what's better for the relationship or family instead of what's better for one's self.
---Share and support their wills, dreams and passion. And make new dreams together!
---Be good to yourself and to your partner. Have self-esteem. Stay healthy and for each other.
Fights :
* Believe in your love. Never give up on her/him no matter what happens don't leave.
* When you fight, make your aim to solve the problem. Differences between people doesn't destroy relationships, but insult and selfishness does! You can't expect your partner to make all the changes and sacrifices.
* Don't avoid the discussion. The earlier you solve your prolems, the better.
* Never go to bed angry.
* ALWAYS say "Good night" and don't stop saying it even for one night. Even if you both are mad at each other or after a fight. It means that you care and that although we are mad and having a fight, I still want this relationship.
It means :I still love you no matter what happen and that nothing can change what I feel for you. I love you despite our differences. Say it BACK when your partner says it to you.
This is crucial so don't ignore it. Maintain what you used to do and don't stop caring.
Believe me : not saying good night just makes things worse.
This goes for the guys and for the ladies, BOTH.
* Always remember even when you fight, that this person is the one who wants to be with you forever, the one who thinks your beautiful and the one who loves you only.
